My theory is, if you look confident, you can pull off anything – Even if you have no clue what you’re doing!
People are naturally attracted to confidence, and so the person who appears to be the most confident will attract the most people, the most opportunities.
The good news is, you don’t really have to be confident, just even acting like one will do the trick!
Wanna hear something even better?
Confidence is not a talent, it is a skill that you or anybody can master!
This means that the tips I am going to reveal today will really give you a great start at climbing the confidence mountain, but you will still have to put a lot of effort in order to reach the top.
Work on your posture
Your posture is everything!
It either makes your personality or completely breaks it.
Keep this in mind: A great posture is a quality of anAlpha Male!
So if you stand tall with your chest out, people will instantly be drawn towards you (It makes you look big and tough 💪)
I know that in the beginning, it will be really difficult to maintain a good posture while standing for a long time, but trust me, it will get way easier.
Stand tall and believe in yourself!
At the very same time, if you slouch while standing, people will perceive you as someone who isn’t confident at all. (in other words, people will see you as a loser!)
It’s all about your choice!
Dress better than 99% of the people around you
Dress for success. Image is very important. People judge you by the way you look on the outside.
Who do you think of when someone says “A successful man”?
A well dressed or an underdressed man?
A well dressed man. Right?
Hence, whenever you will wear the best clothes you have and look better than everyone, people will see you as a very successful human (keep in mind, you can’t be successful without being confident 😉)
Another advantage for dressing well is the opportunities you get.
Successful people like to deal with successful people only.
So if you look as if you are in their league, they will love to spend time with you and so you can gather a lot of advice from them.
If you are lucky, you may get a lot financial opportunities too!
Eye contact is the key
If you make eye contact and know how to hold it for some seconds, you will come across as very confident.
Most of the people who aren’t confident don’t look in the eyes of the person they are having a conversation with.
This turns off the person they are talking to.
You can do much better than them, just focus on making eye contact throughout the conversation and you are good to go!
Now, There is a big mistake people who are new in the eye contact league make.
They just don’t break the eye contact till the end of the conversation, this makes the person they are talking to really uncomfortable.
You have to follow the 85/15 rule here.
This means, you will be making eye contact for 85% of the time and you will be breaking it here and there (15% of the time)
Speak slowly and take pauses
Unconfident people are known to speak really fast while having a talk and not taking any pauses throughout.
This makes it very difficult for a normal human to understand what they mean and are trying to say.
On the other hand, confident people know everything about having a real talk.
They speak slowly and take pauses every now and then, thus, it is really easy for them to get their message across.
If you speak slowly and take pauses, you will be able to notice the facial expressions of the person you are talking to. If the expressions get really serious or angry, you will have enough time to either change the topic or your voice levels. 😉
Think quickly but speak slowly.
If you really want to appear confident when sitting and talking with people, you must learn the art of speaking.
Be an expert at shaking hands
If you shake hands firmly and perfectly, it will give the best first imression, but you must keep up with the expectations afterwards.
Just as P.J O’Rourke says:
A firm, hearty handshake gives a great first impression, but you will never be forgiven if you don’t live up with it!
There are three types of handshakes: loose, really tight and firm (the perfect one)
When someone gives you the loose handshake it means that they are really shy or are really arrogant. Either way, it is just not impressive at all. 😶
The second one is the really tight handshake. It hurts. Really. People will never forgive you for doing that to their hands (especially the creatures known as girls… Ouch!)
Finally, there comes the firm handshake.
The one which has ability to impress anyone, anytime. It is neither really loose nor really tight.
Just shake hands nicely and make people feel your presence. There will be no one looking more confident than you, I promise!
Sunglasses make you look confident
Is eye contact just not for you?
Wearing sunglasses will make you look really confident!
People won’t be able to see your eyes and will never ever get to know that you are hesitant.
Want to trick people even more?
Get a high quality pair of them!
There is big difference between a high quality and a low quality pair of sunglasses.
People will immediately get to know which one you are wearing.
If you are wearing a low quality pair, people will think you just don’t respect yourself enough or you don’t have a great fashion sense. They won’t be impressed!
On the other hand, If are wearing a great pair of sunglasses, people will think you have a great fashion sense and you respect and love yourself. As a result, they will start respecting you too!
Never put your hands in your pockets
There is nothing which makes you look more unconfident than putting your hands in your pockets.